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Buying my new Tempur-Pedic bed was the best 2 Grand I've EVER spent!

About 10 days ago, my husband and I realized that we could no longer sleep on our bed of 6 yrs. We've worn the thing out. It felt like sleeping in a depression. It was just impossible to get comfortable and everytime we woke up, it was as if we'd never slept at all. Not to mention the cricks in the neck, shoulders, and low back..which led to headaches and bad attitudes in the morning hours.

So knowing that buying a tempur-pedic would set us back, just a teeny weeny bit, we knew it would be worth every penny. So we bit the bullet.

They it takes a little while to get used to it. Which in my case, was very true. The first 5 days I had a hard time adjusting to the bed and seeing if I could really get in all my favorite sleeping positions comfortably. I woke up confused for those first 5 days. But now....I fall asleep and never wake up, until I'm forced to (kids). And I find that I hadn't even changed positions! I've slept in one position and never even needed to move! How freakin' awesome is that!

Now I don't even want to get OUT of bed, because it just feels so damn good. ok, i'm rambling now...

raising a 5 yr old girl and a 2 yr old girl would seem to be something i can relate to since I am a girl and had an older sister. My mom and dad raised us, and we are about the same yrs apart as my own girls. Whenever they cry, whine, complain, fight, get in trouble, I try to put myself in their shoes and imagine how I was at their age. I truely wish I could convey to them how silly and unimportant it is to fight over a piece of plastic, or how wrong it is to hit or push one another. "Just walk away from her" is what I seem to say some of the time. "leave her alone"..or "just play separately for a while". But apparently they would rather keep screaming until they have won. I mean, why shouldn't it be so easy for them to just play nicely. They do have dozens of toys between them. Why all the frustration?

Sitting at Starbucks last night for about 2 hours drinking chai and chantico, I was wired up listening to my friend Kelly update Judi and I on her old and new lesbian love life. We were the loudest people in the place. For a while I felt as if we were in a bar. That was the most fun I've had hangin' out since our graduation party in October.

The need for friendship is as unselfish as eating, eliminating, and sleeping.

Now that I have my new Honda Element(orange), I will need to buy more CD's. About 60% of all the music I own is on cassette, but unfortunately my Element does not have a tape player. Therefore, I will now have to buy the same music I own over again, just on CD this time. It's much better quality anyway.

I do have access to cassette players throughout the house, but I don't really listen to music at home. Those days of me hanging out in my room as a teenager, or living single by myself and listening to tapes are long gone. Home life with a husband, 2 kids, a very loud roommate, 3 TV's, a laptop (which I use several times daily), and not to mention, things to clean and food to prepare..are way too many things on the list for music to ever be listened to. It's rare occasion where all of us decide to throw a CD on and turn the TV off.

So the point I'm getting at, I only get to listen to my music when driving in my car. My old car had no CD player and the tape player was broken. So I was stuck with listening to the radio for 3 years. I almost developed carpel tunnel from changing stations just trying to find something decent to listen to.

My first tape-to-cd conversion will be Tori's "Little Earthquakes" and "the choir girl hotel". Probably my top two favorite.

I am merely one minute into listening to Tori's new single "Sleeps with Butterflies" from her upcoming album The Beekeeper..and I'm already in love. This has such a new and different sound..as she always seems to accomplish, not just with every album, but every song. Either she is a direct descendant of one of Homer's Sirens or was merely an angel from the choir of heaven. She certainly has musical talent seeping out of her as if it just happens without effort.

Searching through the net, I found lots of little snipets of songs she's covered in concert, and many others...including stuff from Y Can't Tori Read. Quite cool, I must say.

My roomate, Jerry, got me Napolean Dynamite for Christmas. We watched it the other night. It was my 2nd time but Jerry or Lucio had never seen it. They loved it. I must say it's gotta be the funniest movie of 2004. Not that many good comedies came out last year come to think of it. Napolean isn't funny because of clever dialogue or constant punchlines every 5 minutes...it's funny because of the way the people act, especially when they're serious. Kinda like in Being John Malkovich, another must see.

Friday, our roommate Jerry, asked my husband, Lucio, to draw some tattoos for him. So he did, and the very next day Jerry went and got it done. He's a Star Wars freak..as you can see. But then, as he came home and began showing them off, the girls wanted some of their own. So Lucio got out the ink pen.

I've recently discovered that my previous use of the word "debation" at the end of this post, was indeed incorrect..but I shouldv'e just used the word "debatement" instead. As always, we learn something everyday.

For some reason, everytime the movie 'Laurel Canyon' is on...I have to watch it. It's just so good! It's got the right amount of everything in it. Great cast, great drama.

Earlier today, I overheard a good thought...

"whevever you have those moments where there is no tv, no radio, no one talking, no distractions whatsoever...nothing is forcing you to think about anything..its just you and your thoughts....What do you think about? Whatever your answer may be ..that is the trueness of your character and a window into your soul."

strangely enough, there were very few tears at the funeral. My only explanation was that this was well expected and everybody has been crying for the past few months. So I guess we all got it out of the way. Otherwise, the viewing, the service, the burial and the lunch all went really well. Now, the ultimate test will be what happens to the family now that she's gone.

I recently had a friend of mine wax me. Legs, armpits and a Brazilian. Yes, a Brazilian. Which means more than just the bikini line. Fortunately she's a professional and had all the right materials. Not that Walgreen crap. (FYI: never use that stuff) It was a little painful but she knows what she's doing so the pain was minimal (compared to the time I tried it myself with the Walgreen crap). All in all, it took about 2 1/2 hours, so there was plenty of time for us to tell both of our life stories. Ultimately, the hair has not grown back yet and that was 2 weeks before Christmas. I live getting wax.

Recently, an e-buddy of mine, expressed his desire to no longer participate in instant messaging. This coming from one who thrives on communication, conversation, debation. Ok so debation is not a word, but it sounded good. So I'm actually kinda bummed because I enjoyed our once in a blue moon IM's.

Wednesday, my husband's grandmother died. We've been expecting it since a week before Thanksgiving. We knew she would want to hold on for the holidays...and she did. She had major diabetes, her kidneys were pretty much useless and she was dealing with bad hypertension. She died around 8 oclock wed. morning. She wasn't sleeping really, just resting on her bed and then she just passed. We didn't make it there in time for us to see her before the funeral home took her. But, tomorrow is the funeral and boy, will it be a long day. I don't really plan on wearing make-up, since I know I'll just cry it off.

True, this is not my grandmother. But I've known the lady for about 6 yrs now. She was born in Mexico, gave birth to 11 children, but only 10 of them lived. She grew up poor, married at 16, had an abusive relationship with the father of her children until she divorced in the 80's. Had a commom law husband of about 20 years until he passed away, very unexpectantly, a few years ago. She buried her mother, 98, a few years ago, her brothers and a daughter in law. She was the cutest little mexican lady who always liked to hit people with her cane..but people waited on her hand and foot because she was the matriarch of the family. Decisions weren't made without her approval. She was 77.

So, tomorrow will be a tough day for everyone. I'm sure all 99 people will be crying. I just hope this family doesn't fall apart like my family did when my grandmother died. Who will we all gather around on Mother's Day, Fourth of July, Thanksgiving and Christmas? It seems silly to only show up at family events for one person, but hey, Grandma would want us there..so we'd go. But it happens. People stop caring after the elders go.

The tsunami. Horrible, horrible tragedy, sad, sad natural disaster. The continual coverage is definatly important and necessary. But come on people, we live in Wisconsin! Is it really necessary to have minute by minute coverage on a few inches of snow?!! Yeah, it's snowing. It's Wisconsin. It snows every year. STOP TALKING ABOUT IT! Let's save the news time for other stuff.

kids, massage, husband, massage, house, massage,car, massage,roommate, massage,tv, church, massage, family, massage, friends, massage, bathroom, massage, eat, massage, clean, my life...hey look it's snowing outside.

My favorite new bands:
Keane
Velvet Revolver
The Killers
The Donnas.

My favorite shows:

Six Feet Under - one more season left.....:::cries:::
Sex and the City - just watched the last episode of the series last night..so sad its over
The Sopranos - 1 or 2 seasons left,if they can make up their minds
The L Word - lesbians are the best
Nip/Tuck - superficial? not at all..this show is awesome


Recent movies:

Resident Evil 2 - eeh, i was forced to watch it
Hero - i was so tired when the movie started and fell asleep but from the hour I saw it was most beautiful movie I've ever seen..as far as color and cinematography go
Van Helsing - c.r.a.p
King Arthur - i like the myths better
Series of Unfortunate Events - pretty good
Ext. version of LOTR: ROTK - very disappointed on the whole death of Sauraman
Open Water - why did I watch this? ..count your blessings


Recent books: ( i'm a slow reader)

HP and the Goblet of Fire - I cried during the last 50 pages
HP and the Order of the Phoenix - poor Harry...can't wait for the next one
My next book will be one I read almost 10 years ago..Stephen King's Eye of the Dragon


Now that I have graduated from massage school and still, very patiently, awaiting my letter to take the National test...I've been working at a salon doing massage therapy. I'm on call getting paid commission, so I only really have to be there when a massage is scheduled. Cell phones sure come in handy with this job.


Right now my job is just right for me. I drop the girls off at daycare and school, come home and clean or do whatever, run errands, go do some massages, spend time with hubby, etc. It's nice not being paid by the hour. But as I build my clientele (which is coming along nicely) the money I make pays for daycare. Daycare is good for Josefina. She needs it.

Andromeda, on the other hand, is in kindergarten. Speaking of german words, she is actually going to a german immersion school. She counts in german, asks to go to the bathroom in german, knows her colors in german and few other select words here and there. The immersion schools are some of the best in the Milwaukee Public School systems.

Well, that me as of now. later.